[Excerpt from article, Through The Looking Glass: On Reclaiming The True-Self Nature -by Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA, MACP]:
The True-Self nature may be defined as that part of ourselves which exists independently of the conditioned self, or ego. Martha Graham, American modern dancer and choreographer, had the following to say about this most precious aspect of our being: “There is a vitality, a life force that is translated through you into action. And because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique, and if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost.” Many of us as children grew up in environments that did not support our authentic ‘True-Self’ expressions. Gradually we disconnected from this pure, innate, intensely alive aspect of our nature so as to conform to the expectations of others around us – especially our primary caregivers and/or the ‘power-holders’ in our original family system. This disconnection from our primal, core, or ‘true’ self was a means of ‘going along’ and ‘getting by’ so as to fit in and emotionally and mentally survive our original family system.
Recognizing The True-Self Nature
As adults, we have the opportunity to both recover and embody our authentic ‘True-Self’ nature so as to reclaim and more fully realize what and who we most truly are. This is why I say to all of my new clients who would like to engage in a ‘True-Self’ recovery and reclamation process that “We must go back to the scene of the crime”, meaning, we must re-visit the family-of-origin and thoroughly explore multi-generational patterns and dynamics. And I say this only half-jokingly, because in cases of early childhood neglect and/or abuse, a crime of sorts was indeed committed, as so poignantly described by Alice Miller in her book, ‘The Drama of the Gifted Child’: “According to Miller, the [gifted] child in this type of situation stops growing. Because he cannot develop and differentiate his true self, he feels empty, emotionally isolated, and “homeless.” In adulthood, the child who has always tried to please his parents is constantly looking to others for approval. The role of the therapist, according to Miller, is to help the adult rediscover the child in the cellar. And this revisiting of childhood can give the patient back a sense of vitality and aliveness”... [Article continues, below]http://chainfreeliving.com/2016/04/25/was-it-sub-par-parenting-or-actual-psychological-emotional-child-abuse/